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[bluebeard]

So, apparently I can feel jealousy. Not that I had ever absolutely ruled it out; it's just rare, happening only twice in the past that I can recall, and both of those times there was actual involvement (then-partner starts relationship with new guy, denied it when I asked, proceeded to spend entire weeks with new guy.. yeah.).

This time, though, was the typical story: a crush develops, the target however isn't looking for involvement, starts shagging a couple mutual friends. Totally groovy, usually; we're a caring-sharing bunch.

Apparently, as you get older, emotional needs become stronger.

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My grandmother's boyfriend, Billy, is dying. With a stroke, heart attack, a car wreck, and 70-something years behind him, he's just tired. I guess I can't blame him.

My grandmother says what she'll miss the most is "Hey, hi, hello"; a little song he came up with to sing to her whenever he saw her for the first time on any given day.

He's the first relationship she's ever had where she wasn't abused. She's 73.

Comments

[ladyinthecanoe.livejournal.com]

Damned human emotions... they'll crop up just when you don't really want 'em to.

Sorry to hear about your grandmother's bf - at least it can be said she got to experience a good relationship. She's probably very grateful for that, yes?

[dom-ino.livejournal.com]

I should hope she is; I would be. If it tells you anything about the severity of the past, my father never talks about his father, our grandfather; when we ask about him, the response is "We just don't need to talk about that."

[ink-ling.livejournal.com]

This (jealousy) is a complicated issue. And one I've thought about a lot lately. Though I doubt we'd have similar opinions on the subject, I'd like to talk to you about it. Don't -- of course -- expect absolute agreement.

And though I know you take it more as a learning experience, I'm still sorry you felt it.

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About Billy ... your way of putting this makes me both very sad and very happy. This is definitely bittersweet ... and I hope you can see it as -- somehow -- equally both.

Joe: This is a really amazing post. Thanks.

[dom-ino.livejournal.com]

I don't expect absolute agreement with anyone about anything. :P always glad to compare points, however.